Don’t become the “revision police”

It’s tempting to ask:

• “How much revision have you done?”
• “Have you started science yet?”
• “What did your friend get in the mock?”

…but constant pressure and comparisons can sometimes increase anxiety.

Instead, try checking in calmly and helping your child create manageable revision goals rather than expecting hours of non-stop study.

A simple “How can I help?” can often be far more effective.

Encourage breaks, sleep and proper food

Teens revising for exams can sometimes survive entirely on energy drinks, snacks and stress.

But sleep, hydration and regular meals genuinely matter when it comes to concentration, memory and wellbeing. Encourage regular breaks and healthy routines during exam season.

Short breaks, fresh air, exercise and time away from screens can also help students reset and avoid burnout.

Accept that stress is normal

Even confident students feel nervous before exams.

There may be tears over revision. There may be panic about a practice paper. There may even be a full-scale meltdown over a missing calculator the night before an exam.

Try to stay calm and reassuring. Remind them that feeling stressed is normal and that one exam or one difficult day does not define their future.

Focus on effort, not just grades

Exam season can make young people feel like everything depends on results.

While grades are important, confidence, resilience and effort matter too. Celebrate the hard work they are putting in, not just the final outcome.

Sometimes what students need most is hearing:
“I’m proud of how hard you’re trying.”

Watch for signs they may be struggling

A certain amount of stress is expected during exams, but ongoing anxiety can sometimes become overwhelming.

Signs to look out for may include:

• Difficulty sleeping
• Low mood or irritability
• Avoiding revision completely
• Changes in appetite
• Feeling constantly overwhelmed or emotional

If your child seems particularly anxious or withdrawn, encourage them to speak to someone they trust, whether that’s family, friends, teachers or support staff.

Keep perspective

Exams are important – but they are not the only route to success.

Whether young people move on to college, sixth form, apprenticeships, university or employment, there are always different pathways and opportunities available.

Long after exam season ends, students are more likely to remember how supported they felt than what was on the exam paper itself.